11th December 2025  /  EAGLE FM

There Is Pride in Marriages
For example, will a wife allow her husband to make the final financial decisions when she is the one contributing the lion’s share of the income? Or will a husband insist on making all financial decisions when his wife is not working?
Quite often, when raising children, more attention is given to the girl while the boy is neglected and left to fend for himself, under the pretext that “he is a man” and will find his own way in life. This imbalance during upbringing eventually affects adulthood and relationships. Today we see more women in business than men, more women in schools and universities, more women in leadership and decision-making positions, and the list goes on.
Unfortunately, this dynamic often spills over into the household. Traditionally, a man is expected to be the head of the home. Ideally, a husband and wife should be partners who discuss and agree on the issues that affect their family, even if the husband makes the final decision. But in the situation described above, will a wife easily submit to her husband when she is the one contributing the most financially?
This requires humility from both sides. However, the reality on the ground is often different. Many men suffer in silence because this iss how they were raised: you don’t raise your voice to complain, that is cowardice.
There is a scenario of a husband who called a family meeting to announce that no more noodles would be bought for the house. His reason was simple: everyone had become so lazy that no one wanted to cook anymore, including his wife. It had reached a point where each person kept noodles near their bed, ready to prepare a quick meal whenever they felt hungry. Tired of the situation, he banned noodles entirely.
But this raises several questions. If you were the one contributing more financially, would you accept such a decision without discussion? On the other hand, the husband did not consult his wife first at all to establish her thoughts on the matter. Perhaps because he is the sole breadwinner, he felt he did not need her input. This is a common source of conflict in many marriages: small issues that grow into major problems over time.
Just because many wives hold powerful positions does not mean they should abandon the principle of partnership in marriage. Being a wife means being a helper, not making decisions alone. You help the marriage thrive and help your husband grow. If a married man appears in public wearing wrinkled clothes, people often assume his wife is careless. But what if the wife refuses to help because she is a CEO while her husband is a cleaner?
Similarly, if a husband makes all financial decisions simply because he is the breadwinner, that too is unfair. Bringing in income does not give one exclusive rights to it. When the husband is away, the wife takes care of the home, the children, and even him by ensuring he has food to eat; things he cannot easily manage alone. She, too, is entitled to the benefits of that income.
Therefore, professional positions should not dictate how a marriage functions. You might be a manager at work, but at home you are a partner, a spouse.